When was the last time you had a good scare? I haven’t had one in a while. This is both great and terrible.
It’s great because I lead a pretty safe and secure life. I don’t walk around paranoid. I just do what I do. I don’t worry much, things just tend to fall into place.
However, that doesn’t mean I’m fearless. Far from it. Everybody has fears, no matter how big, small, logical, or irrational they may be. What this fear-free life really means is that I’m committed to staying within my comfort zone. There is a ton of stuff out there that scares me, I just choose to avoid it.
This is terrible for two reasons. First, facing fear promotes growth. It is extremely tough to grow within your comfort zone. There are rewards on the other side and you have to step out to go get them. Second, fear makes us feel alive. It gets the blood pumping. Have you ever heard someone tell a story about when they were truly scared? They can remember every detail. This is because fear is exciting.
Fear can either hold you back or propel you forward. I refuse to be held back. So, I’m taking on a decades old challenge from Eleanor Roosevelt.
“Do one thing every day that scares you,” she said.
I came across a journal based on that challenge and I plan on using the calls to action and quotes in there as daily writing prompts. I hope this will help me face some of my fears and post more regularly on this site. So, without further ado, here’s prompt #1: A list of things that scare me. These are in order of when they popped into my head, not in order of least to greatest.
- Introducing myself to strangers. This is a big one for me. I feel really uncomfortable talking to people unless I either know you really well, or have a pre-determined purpose for talking to you. It’s weird because I don’t have stage fright. It’s the face-to-face conversations that get me.
- Heights. Rollercoasters, airplanes, tall buildings, you name it. A fear of heights is pretty ironic for a person as tall as me. I would much rather have my feet on the ground. Chances are you will never see me go skydiving.
- Being stuck with a job I hate. I see so many people who hate their jobs. Their 9-5 stresses them out so they live for the weekend. And who wants to live 5/7th’s of their life doing stuff they don’t want to do?
- Dogs. All my friends who are dog-owners know this. It doesn’t even have to be a big dog. But, if it’s a big dog, forget it. The quickest way to get rid of me is probably to bring a dog. I’m allergic and I’m scared.
- God. There is a higher force than you and I at work in the universe. Best to live with this in mind and act accordingly. Wouldn’t want to upset the creator.
- Dying. What happens when you die? Lights out? Heaven? Hell? No living being truly knows. Scary. Definitely has kept me up more than a few nights.
- How fast time is moving. Like yo, we’re only on earth for a short bit of time. I’m 23. My run is probably at least 1/4 of the way over. And when its over, its really over. Ain’t no going back.
- Smartphone/video-game addiction. Both of these are actual health problems, if you ask me. I’m completely addicted to my phone and video games. No matter what, I always end up wasting a significant portion of my day in front of a screen. Even if I’ve already beaten a game, I’ll play it again. I’ll spend hours looking at meaningless stuff on my phone. I could end up wasting too much time if I’m not careful.
- Robots. I really think scientists are taking it too far with Robots/AI. If I had to bet on how the human race would become extinct, it would be a robot takeover. They’re becoming too smart. Only a matter of time before a few of them develop bad intentions.
- Bad habits. Because at the end of the day, my habits have a greater impact on my day-to-day life than just about anything else. I’d be lying if I said I had all good habits. It’s a struggle to stay organized, efficient, and motivated. Bad habits are the biggest barrier between my dreams and I.